Assertiveness Skills:
Steps Anyone Can Take To
Become More Assertive

This page discusses Assertiveness Skills.

Today, a person has to know how to effectively stand up for themselves, so they don’t wither under the first hint of confrontation.

Learning how to develop the assertive portions of their personalities, without becoming overbearing or aggressive, is extremely important for these people.

If you want to start making changes in your life and become more assertive, here are some simple things you can begin doing right away that will immediately make a difference.

  • Express yourself clearly – One of the biggest failings many people have is that they never manage to clearly explain their wants, needs, and desires to their friends and loves ones. No one is a mind reader, and you need to take some responsibility for this yourself. If you have strong feelings about something, you need to explain them to people. 


  • Watch your body language – Another thing to keep aware of is that your body language sends signals just as your verbal communication does. If the signals they send do not match each other, or are radically different from what you are saying, this will impede your communication efforts, and you need to be aware that there are multiple forms of communication going on.

  • Stop apologizing – Many people all too frequently offer up apology when they have done nothing wrong. Think carefully, when you are about to say this; should you be sorry for something? Have you done something wrong? If so, then by all means apologize, but if you haven’t, or if you just use these words for filler content, keep them to yourself.

  • Go slowly – Becoming more assertive isn’t something you can do overnight, it is a journey which takes a good deal of time. Go ahead and take all the time you need, and make small, incremental improvement in your behavior.

If you try to implement these four changes in your life, you will definitely become more assertive and have a more enjoyable experience interacting with people.

Just make sure to not go overboard, and to get the opinion of your loved ones as to how you are doing in terms of progressing towards being more assertive.


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